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Oh, Really? Are Women Buying Their Own Engagement Rings?

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Is the concept of Australian men or fiancee’ paying for engagement rings an old tradition that’s ebbing away or is it growing stronger?
According to information from the United States, more and more couples are splitting the costs. This is a good idea since the partner gets the ring they desire and there are no unnecessary surprises. Some would argue, and rightly so, that this could lead to diminished romance.
Should it be mandatory for the man to buy the engagement ring, even in instances where the wife-to-be makes significantly more money than the man?

Oh really? Women are actually buying their own engagement rings, or at least splitting the costs?

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According to the “Cut and the Knot”, this is true as there is an ever increasing willingness amongst engaged couples to split the engagement ring cost. This act fits very well into the 21st century system of managing family finances, in which both parties make contributions to every project at hand since they both have stable jobs. Findings from a Today poll revealed that almost half of the respondents were in support of the idea that each couple should bear the cost of the engagement ring and this number is expected to rise if they are told by their husband-to-be that they would have to go forgo their precious diamonds (not fun at all, especially since they would have to wave good bye to their dreams of flaunting their beautiful diamond engagement ring!) if costs are not shared.

This entire issue certainly brings up unsettling existential drama: the question then arises- is it really an engagement ring if you contributed to its purchase? The engagement ring is meant to be a gift from the man to a woman to demonstrate his level of commitment. When you display your diamond ring for all to see, you do that with the intention that everyone sees how invested your man is, financially, in acquiring you as his bride-to-be. (Quite funny to note that the man doesn’t need to demonstrate how committed you are to him. The women’s commitment is assumed to be assured and they are so grateful to be counted worthy to be selected for the honourable position of being someone else’s sandwich maker). So, if you paid for the ring yourself, it doesn’t matter if it is just half the price, it defeats the whole purpose. It’s no longer a show of his commitment anymore. Does the engagement ring, which isn’t a down payment on a future commitment even shine as brightly?

All these comes with the realisation that it is high time we ended the tradition of the engagement ring and other wedding rituals that were built on the premise that the bride is meant to be dependent and virginal. The idea that a woman has to get a husband and claim expensive totems of his commitment in order to hold him in place before the wedding is repulsive to both genders. It just does not make sense especially now that women provide for themselves. Let us come up with new traditions that adequately reflect our modern era and let go of sexist, retrograde wedding traditions that just doesn’t cut it anymore.
A new tradition has come up which involves broadcasting your engagement by means of a photo shoot. This presents a far more cost effective way of reflecting the couples’ enjoyable and romantic lives; without the expensive display of an engagement ring. More of this please!

Engagement Rings- Couples Share Everything

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It’s traditional for a man to buy his partner an engagement ring. Taking out that beautiful diamond, offering it to the delighted bride to be … it’s the stuff of Hollywood. But is it still relevant today? Are couples still getting engaged the traditional way, or are some new ways of doing things becoming more popular? After all, couples are now more likely to share responsibility for their home rent or mortgage, their grocery bills, even romantic meals out, so why not engagement rings?

 

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According to some sources, it’s getting increasingly likely that women will share the cost of the ring with their partner – or even consider buying their own ring! That’s one sure fire way to make sure they get a ring they truly love, but what about romance? Does the modern way take the romance out of an engagement?

According to a poll by Today, nearly half of women would be happy to share the cost of an engagement ring. It’s quite a challenge to accepted traditions and women who embrace this hands-on approach (pun totally intended) may well find their friends and family looking at them askance when they delightedly show off the ring they helped to buy. But when you really think about it, it makes sense. If marriage is a partnership and both couples are contributing to the household coffers, why should the responsibility for a major purchase fall to only one partner?

There will be some who decry the idea of course. After all, an engagement ring is a gift, a demonstration of how much a man loves a woman. In times gone by, it was seen as a sign of being willing to invest in their partner and give her something flashy to show who she belonged to. Probably not the best values to espouse in our society today! So where does this leave engagement rings? Are they a delightful sign of romance and commitment, or are they becoming less relevant?

For some couples, there’s no doubt that an engagement ring is a gesture they both really appreciate, a way of showing the world they’re ready to commit. Perhaps in those cases, splitting the cost evens the score and brings the tradition into line with the modern world. But do we really need it? Thankfully, brides are no longer expected to be sweet, compliant and totally dependent on their new man to take care of them. The name of the game is finding a compatible partner to share life with, not grabbing yourself a trophy wife or well to do husband to show off.

So does this work for you ?
Let go of the old traditions and find new and more modern ways to announce that you’re ready to get married? you could still have the romance of asking the question, but in a different way. Certainly todays society is all about focus on equality so why not start building up new traditions that celebrate what each couple has together, instead of trying to mold today’s young lovers into yesterday’s old traditions.